If you are grieving a pregnancy loss or the death of an infant, here is what we most want you to know, stated plainly because you deserve plain truth: your grief is real, it is not too big, and you do not have to carry it alone. Pregnancy loss, whether through miscarriage, stillbirth, ectopic pregnancy, failed IVF transfer, or the death of a baby, is the loss of a real person you were already loving and a real future you had already begun to live in. Grief this heavy does not require the world's permission to matter. October is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, and October 15 is a remembrance day held by parents around the world, but this post is for whatever month you find it in.
Read MoreOctober is ADHD Awareness Month, so let's have the grown-up version of this conversation. And if you are here because those ADHD TikToks have been hitting a little too close to home lately, welcome. The algorithm is not a clinician, but it is sometimes an excellent front door.
Read MoreHere is the answer to the question underneath this post: no, you do not need to be in crisis to go to couples therapy, and the couples who get the most out of it are often the ones who come in before anything is officially wrong. Couples therapy works best as maintenance, a regular place to tune communication, clear small resentments before they compound, and stay curious about each other, rather than as an emergency room you only visit once something has broken. Research from the Gottman Institute has found that couples wait an average of six years after problems begin before seeking help, and by then the patterns have had six years of practice. This post makes the case for getting there earlier, sometimes years earlier, sometimes before there is a "there" at all.
Read MoreMaybe this is familiar: you opened your phone to check one thing. That was 45 minutes ago. Now your jaw is tight, your chest has that low hum, and you know seventeen new terrible things you cannot do anything about tonight. You put the phone down feeling worse than when you picked it up and somehow also feeling like you should check it again soon. If that loop owns more of your evenings than you would like, this post is for you.
Read MoreSeptember is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month, and most of what gets shared this month is written for the person who is struggling. This is for the other person in the room: the friend, partner, parent, sibling, or coworker who has noticed something and is quietly carrying the question, "What do I do?"
Read MoreSeptember really does function like a second January; psychologists call it the fresh start effect, where temporal landmarks (a new year, a new season, a Monday) make change feel more possible. But the reset that lasts is not the one where you overhaul your entire life in week one. It is the one where you start small, expect stumbles, and treat your routine as something that takes care of you, not something you have to earn.
Read MoreDecision paralysis is almost never about the decision. It is about what the decision has come to mean. When choosing feels impossible, it is usually because somewhere along the way, "picking wrong" started to feel dangerous, so your mind protects you the only way it knows how: by not picking at all. You're not indecisive. You're carrying a rule that says you're not allowed to get it wrong.
Read MoreYou are not behind. You are measuring your life with a ruler somebody else made. Here is where the invisible timeline came from, why everyone else only seems ahead, and how to find a pace that actually fits your life.
Read More"Is this ADHD, or is it just me?" If you've been asking that question for years, you deserve a real answer. From evidence-based ADHD testing (with a detailed written report you can actually use) to therapy that works with your brain instead of against it, here's what ADHD support looks like at The Therapy Group in West Chester, Philadelphia, and online across most U.S. states.
Read MoreBack-to-school season isn't just a transition for kids. It's an emotional shift for parents, too. From schedule overload and anticipatory worry to the quiet grief of a college drop-off, September asks a lot of families. Here's how to navigate the chaos with more steadiness, plus the therapists and services at The Therapy Group who can support you, including virtual therapy that can follow your college student out of state.
Read MoreA text comes in asking for a favor, and your thumbs are typing “of course!” before the rest of you has even weighed in. You reread the message after you send it and feel something drop in your stomach because you did not want to say yes. You wanted to rest. If that sounds familiar, there is a name for the pattern, and no, nothing is wrong with you.
Read MoreIf you keep replaying conversations in your head, there is nothing wrong with you. This mental habit is called rumination, and it is one of the most common experiences people describe in therapy. It is your mind trying to protect you, not evidence that something is broken. The replaying is usually a sign that the conversation mattered to you.
Read MoreDeciding to tell someone you have herpes can bring up a lot of emotions like fear and dread. Let's pause. And take one deep breath in.
Read MoreIf you and your partner keep having the same argument over and over, you are not broken, and your relationship is not doomed. Recurring fights are one of the most ordinary, deeply human parts of sharing a life with someone.
Read MoreA herpes diagnosis can hit like the ground falling out from under you, bringing shock, fear, and a wave of questions about your worth and your future. Therapist Angela Sanson, LMFT, gently walks through the ones you might be asking yourself, from "how could this happen to me?" to "will anyone ever want me again?" This is a compassionate, shame-free guide to re-regulating, feeling understood, and remembering that a diagnosis is one chapter in your story, not the whole book.
Read MoreMak Donovan, MFT, is back to unpack more of the songs from The Great Divide: The Last Of The Bugs by Noah Kahan. Spending time with this album has been a gift. Thanks for taking the time to read part one! Here’s what I think of a few of the other songs on the album and who can benefit from listening to them.
Read MoreIf you have ever wondered why you are this exhausted when you are, by every visible measure, holding your life together beautifully, the short answer is: you have been carrying more than people realized for a long time.
Read MoreA therapist searches for deeper meaning...shocker.
If you are like me, you have been blasting Noah Kahan’s new album nonstop since it came out. The Great Divide: The Last of the Bugs is a beautifully intimate and reflective album that depicts exactly what it’s like to be human. It speaks to the parts of us that we hide and the versions of us that want connection, above all else.
Read MoreIt is normal to feel guilty for being happy when we recognize the inequality and unfairness of suffering. Of course, that makes perfect sense. Often, though, we can end up limiting ourselves because of our guilt.
I’d like to make a case for your joy. Your very human joy.
Read MoreFeeling disconnected from your partner is one of the most common experiences in long-term relationships, and one of the hardest to talk about. It doesn't always come with a clear cause. It doesn't mean you've stopped loving them. It doesn't mean the relationship is over. Sometimes it just means you've both been living parallel lives for a while, and the space between you has gotten wider without anyone really noticing until now.
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